Aoi has a message for those who say they “feel sorry for the children of adult video actresses”.
After making her adult video debut in 2002 at the age of 18, Tokyo-born Sola Aoi quickly became one of the biggest names in the industry, with a huge following in Japan and overseas.
Over the last decade, though, Aoi has moved away from the adult video world, appearing in mainstream TV variety programs and dramas, and the Japanese media no longer refer to her as an “AV actress”, choosing to refer to her as a “sexy actress” instead.
▼ Aoi just before she made her debut.
▼ Now she’s an actress in TV dramas.
However, the 35-year-old still remains a porn star in many people’s eyes, and despite announcing her marriage to Japanese musician DJ Non, – who, in her words, is “neither handsome nor rich, but has removed all of my uneasiness about having been in adult films, as well as everything else” – Aoi has had to bear the brunt of online trolls and their hurtful comments.
In her latest blog post, published on 11 December, Aoi announced her happy pregnancy news with her husband, but before doing so, she wrote a whole page of thoughts on the insensitive comments she’s received, opening with: “These AV actresses who have children…poor children.”
According to Aoi, she saw this comment online after the announcement about her marriage to DJ Non was made, and it’s one that’s appeared numerous times, again and again, even before she was married. While she acknowledges the fact that people have a right to express their opinions, it appears that Aoi herself now wants to speak her own mind on the topic, hitting back at trolls by asking people to focus on what’s important: the happiness of the parent and child.
▼ Aoi has often expressed her fondness for babies.
Writing in short phrases that read like a stream-of-consciousness poem, Aoi says “The unhappiness of a child is an unhappy thing for an actress’ parents and an unhappy thing for a non-actress’ parents”.
She goes on to write:
“If you think that children of AV actresses will definitely be bullied in the future, then that’s more a reflection of your core values.”
“To people who say, ‘If you’re poor you’re unhappy. If you’re rich you’re happy’, I want to say that’s not true. It’s a simple way of looking at things.”
“Of course, it’s better to have some money, but I don’t think if you’re poor it automatically means you’re unhappy.”
“Of course, it’s better not to do AV, but if you do AV it doesn’t mean you’re unhappy. It might be a far-fetched excuse, but either way, I want to have a child. My desire to have a child is like anyone else’s.”
“Good relationships between parents and children are not necessarily based on parents’ professions, they’re based on the child’s environment.”
“Environment.”
“A long time ago, I received comments and messages on this blog from people saying ‘My mother worked in the sex industry, and I was unhappy. So please don’t have a child.’ But that’s your environment, it’s not my child’s environment.”
“My parents, siblings and other relatives knew I was an AV actress. Regardless of what path they wanted me to take, they always supported me as an individual and never disowned me, which was really wonderful.”
“They never told me ‘do this, do that’ or ‘don’t do this, don’t do that’, without listening to my side of the story, so they’ve always respected my opinions, ever since I was small.”
“They know my character better than anyone else because they’ve watched me grow up since the day I was born.”
▼ Aoi says she has a good relationship with her family.
“Of course they gave me guidance, but because I’m the type of child that does whatever I set out to do, my mother had faith in me.”
“I didn’t want to just be an AV actress until the very end, so when I told them that, they believed me.”
“So when I told them I was getting married, they were really happy.”
“I thought about so many things before having a child, and decided I want to give them grandchildren.”
“Even though some people say AV actresses shouldn’t have children, no matter what, I want to have a child.”
“And I want to become a mother like my mother. I know it won’t be easy.”
“And I have a report. It was announced for me at an event already, but I’ve now been blessed with a new life.”
“I am five months pregnant.”
“I had a bad time with morning sickness every day for about two months. I’m anxious as it’s my first pregnancy, but I will become a mother next May.”
“I look forward to your continued support.”
“Sorry this was so long for just reporting my pregnancy.”
▼ And with that, she included this picture of herself, beaming with happiness in an elegant ball gown.
Aoi appears to be pre-empting the trolls with her extra-long pregnancy announcement, sharing her views and family experiences in an attempt to get people to broaden their minds and be more accepting of her pregnancy.
Aoi and her husband want everyone to know that their child will be raised in a loving environment, and they’ll be doing everything they can to ensure their child’s happiness, starting right now by protecting their baby-to-be against the inevitable public backlash.
Source: Sola Aoi official blog via Kinisoku
Featured image: Instagram/aoi_sola
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